It seems like just yesterday that you were a tiny new born. Now look at you! You'll be five in September and are going to start school this fall too. I'm not sure how I'm going to handle that. When I had you and Aiden in day care for a few weeks, I cried the first day. I had to call several times to make sure you were okay. Of course you were, but I guess it's a Mommy thing. As I was leaving you were screaming for me to stay. It broke my heart, but I had to go to work. That's why I'm in school now because not only was day care too expensive and too heart breaking, but I didn't want somebody I didn't know taking care of my babies. I'm not talking bad about people who have to use the day cares. No, I just was too broken hearted (and broke) to keep you in it. You're my angel, my princess, my stinky, my sweet, good girl. I love you.
I hope you like school. Mommy never did. I went to a private Christian school and the teachers were pretty hard on me. I was shy and scared of adults growing up and school only aggrivated the situation. You're not though. You're strong and you're so excited about school. I hope you stay that way. Know this, I will be there for you whenever you need me. I will be active in your school. I know it hurt me that my parents weren't active in mine. It really hurt bad. I promise also to have you to school on time and pick you up on time. Sure there will be times when it's impossible, but they will be slim to none. I will not make you suffer from my laziness like I was made to by my mother.
Your Granny...
What can I say about her? I feel I owe you an explination for why we don't see them anymore. It's complicated and I don't think you'll understand until you're older.
Granny and Pa didn't love eachother like your Daddy and I do. They made each other miserable and there for their children (me and your aunt Derika and all of us) suffered. Granny was depressed, yes, but it's not an excuse to allow what we went through to happen.
As we got older it didn't get any better with Granny and Pa until finally they got a divorce. Really, this should've happened a long time ago. It was better for them. My Dad, Pa, especially. Memaw loves Pa will all of her heart and they make each other happy.
Don't ever stay with someone who doesn't make you happy! Please, you will be hurting more than just yourself. And sometimes the damage takes a life time to correct.
After Pa and Granny divorced, Granny sunk into another depression and lost her job. Things started to look a little better when she got a new one and made some new friends. But people can't make you happy, baby girl, only you can make you happy.
What does this have to do with why we don't see her? Well, I had to give you some back ground without being to detail specific. I don't want you to hate Granny and when you're older if you wish to see her you can. I just need you to understand why I can't be around that anymore.
Parent's aren't supposed to have favorites. It's true, but it's hard sometimes when there are so many personalities envolved. Granny had aunt Maria and uncle Mark with her first husband. That makes them my half-brother and half-sister. Granny has a lot of guilt built up towards how she raised them. That's why she treats them how she does, well.
It broke my heart to see you and your brother treated differently from the rest of her grandkids, Mark and Maria's kids. I couldn't put you through that. They don't like your Daddy, but let me explain why. He made mention the fact that everybody should just get along and they turned on him like vipers. I love your Father and he loves me. What he said was good advice, but it fell on bitter ears.
Granny still blames Pa for things, but before you can blame someone else you have to look inside yourself. She never did that and is only beginning to now. Unfortunately, it's a little late.
The way aunt Maria and Granny treat people is wrong. I know they seem alright, but the more you are around them the more you see what I'm talking about. They can suck you into it and I don't want that for you. I know you love your cousins, especially Anna and Sarah, but I just can't be around them. I miss your cousins and maybe one day we'll be able to see them again. Like I said, I won't keep you from them. When you are old enough, if you want to talk to them, see them, whatever...you can.
Everyone makes mistake, baby girl, and I guess that's what I'm getting at. Granny made mistakes, maria made mistakes, so did mark, doug, and Derika. The thing about mistakes that you need to learn is that you're supposed to learn from your mistakes. Admit that you made one and move on. You have to admit your mistakes so you can stop making them. I've made quite a few mistakes in my life. I'll admit them though I'm not proud of most. And I have moved on. They haven't. I can't stay in the past where they remind and pry and talk about the mistakes behind my back. Where they never really forgave me or themselves for the mistakes made. It's hard not to think about the bad things in life that happen, but I have you, Aiden, and your Dad. I have Papa and Memaw, Derika and James, Grams and Pops, Jeff and Megan, and others who make this a nice place to be.
And one of the biggest reason, baby girl, is that you can't let people take advantage of you, not even family. I don't think I shall mention the specifics because you're too young to understand yet. Just know that my first responsiblity and priority is you, your brother, and your father. You three come first. Always. If someone doesn't like that, be it family, school, or job then they can shove it were the sun don't shine. LOL, you know what I mean?
I love you baby girl. Always, always, always know that. Know also that I don't know how to be a mom and I'm making up most of this as I go along. I want you to have a tight and loving family. I will make sure you do. No matter what happens, you'll have a close family. God forbid, but if your father and I should ever part ways...we will all still be a close family. ALWAYS. I swear if that should happen, I will not speak bad of your father nor speak rude to his new woman nor put you in the middle. We would keep the family close, because whether step or half or adopted...family is family and should love eachother as such.
Know this...I love you.